After your baby is born there is a wide variety of emotions you may experience. After months, and at times years, of anticipation, your bundle of joy is finally here. So much attention and time is spent on your precious newborn, that it’s easy to lose focus on your own mind, body, and soul. Expectations of all types compete for attention, and unfortunately, they can distract from this very joyous time – and that includes internal expectations that mothers place upon themselves.

Separating fact from fiction helps, so let’s take a look at some of the more common postpartum misconceptions we come across.

Myth 1: Leaking should be accepted as “part of life”

Leaking does not have to be your “normal.” Moms often joke about leaking while jumping on a trampoline. Some exercise classes even tell women if they aren’t leaking, then they aren’t pushing hard enough. But you don’t have to live that way. Many women think if they just do Kegels that it’s enough to stop it. Then when they try Kegels and still leak, they think that they just have to deal with the leaking. But there is hope. Often times by assessing your bladder and bowel habits, diet, and body movements holistically, you can overcome leaks.

Myth 2: Pregnancy and delivery ruins your body

Pregnancy changes your body. But that does not mean your body is ruined. You may experience perineal tearing, a c-section, diastasis recti, pelvic pressure, etc that makes you feel like you are living in someone else’s body. But you can take back control and get comfortable in your own skin again. Your body is strong and capable. Sometimes we need to adjust and rediscover our bodies, how they feel, and how they move. It can be a wonderful part of the postpartum healing journey. If you feel lost on the journey of having your body work for you and not against you, we are here to help as your guide. We can meet in you in your Colorado Springs home, with practical steps to help you realize what your body is capable of.

Myth 3: It’s okay for sex to be painful

Your body changes during pregnancy and delivery. In the postpartum period your hormones are still adjusting and sex may initially feel different. But sex should not be painful. Often women think that they just need to “grin and bear it” when sex feels uncomfortable after a baby, but there are options to enjoy sex without pain. A great place to start is to use lubricant. Right after baby, your body produces less natural lubrication. Using lubrication without irritating additives can help reduce discomfort and pain. If you are still experiencing pain and discomfort sex, seek help from a pelvic floor therapist, your midwife, or your OB/GYN.